We were never any good at planning. Really. We could barely get ourselves out the door for school every morning. A camping trip? Ha ha. A back packing trip? Bound to be a figment of our imagination. But this summer was going to be different. We had a plan to drive across the country and camp on islands off the coast of California, backpacking the final miles to our destination.
I’ve never seen us plan so much for anything. Maps, sleeping bags, ginormous backpacks, flashlights, bottled water, even a cooler packed with snacks, treats and meal fixings. It wasn’t bad food either. Power bars, granola bars, fruit. All packed. No pre-trip sampling allowed. As tempted as I was, I obeyed and kept my distance from the food and instead rolled up clothes to shove into my backpack.
My mom and sister were on their way to a funeral, a friends daughter. They promised to return in time to finish packing and be ready to hit the road in the morning. But of course, the more something is planned, the more easily it can become unraveled.
Upon returning from the funeral, their path was deterred by a phone call regarding a dear friend who had become ill. His family out of town, my mother and sister rushed to his house and drove him to the hospital. They remained by his side as he crawled his way towards both death and a new lightness of being beyond this earth.
At home my sister and I waited for any news as the night grew late. We crawled into my mother’s bed, whispering to our dogs, sending hopeful prayers in return for restless sleep. We awoke at three a.m. to the news that our friend had passed. Hours later my mother and oldest sister arrived back at the house. We spoke in hushed voices about the details. Leaving plans for our trip far behind us.
The four of us curled up on the full size bed, trying to grasp what was left of the night for sleep. We woke early. Hungry, tired, grieving. We pulled granola bars out of the perfectly packed cooled and retrieved our clothes from our backpacks. We said goodbye to our adventure and settled in the car headed for breakfast.
Over a restaurant table and coffee the details of the night were told and retold . With every retelling the events coming from foggy fatigue into reality. Our backpacking trip became a walk around the park, our camping trio became napping on the sofa and our Fourth of July became fireworks instead of wilderness. The stony silence of a funeral instead of the whisper of a forrest.
In some ways the unexpected kept us from what I suspect might have been a disastrous venture. The trip has never been re-planned over the years. As though we traded in our planning for more comfortable and less planned ventures, without the need for backpacks, but occasionally the need for tents.
Tags: death, family, friends, funeral, life, loss, short story, story, summer, time, travel, writing